I can't believe I'm saying that an article from the New York Times is actually good. Amazing! The Times could pretty easily be renamed "Let's just Submit to Islam Times," based on some of the previous articles they have published.
But here's a great article, read it all. These are the real questions that Muslims today are dealing with. Here is rule #2, for example:
"You can kill children, too, without needed to feel distress."
Great stuff. Here.